I wanted to write you a letter as you grow in my belly. First, I want you to know how loved you are already. You are so wanted. We, your father and I, can’t wait to meet you, see your smile and learn about your unique personality. We prayed for you. I can honestly say you are a wish in our hearts that has come true.
I wanted to share some life lessons with you because our lives are going to be different. You’re going to be growing up in a different world than what your father and I grew up. We’re going to do our best to protect you, always, and to also make sure you are surrounded by love. You were made from great love by us and our Creator.
I wanted to share with you some life lessons that I’ve learned along the way and hope that we can teach you.
Lesson 1: Be A Helper. You’re going to grow up probably way more privileged than your father and I and most people in this world are. We came from blue-collar, working-class and immigrant families from the Midwest. Your father has been working for everything he has since he was 12yrs old. You will probably not have to work as young as him for a new pair of shoes or the latest technology. However, I want you to recognize how lucky you are that we don’t have to beg, steal or depend on the government or anyone else for food and basic human needs to survive. This is not to make you ever feel better about yourself since you will notice that we may have more than others. It will be your responsibility to help those in need. You don’t lose anything by helping others and being a giver in this world.
Lesson 2: Be A Fighter. Yes, I’m encouraging you to fight! Fight for your rights and those of anyone else that needs your help and voice for equality. This is your power. Use it peacefully and always. Hopefully, by the time you are old enough to realize injustice, we’ll have made progress as a country for women, people of color, immigrants, Muslims, and all of our LGBTQ brothers and sisters. If not, you must always stand with those who are fighting for their equal rights to exist. Most importantly, you must vote for them, with them and on their issues. Those will be your issues, as we are one. Be a fighter. You will lose nothing by standing in solidarity with others, but you will gain significantly deep relationships with those that are different than you when you stand up and fight with them.
Lesson 3: Be Curious. I think you’re going to inherit this naturally from the both of us. I’m wildly curious about people. Your father is wildly curious about the world. Since the day I met him back in 2004, he always told me how he wanted to experience the whole world. You’re probably going to visit more foreign lands than we did at any given age you are. Your father and I, traveled a bit before you were born. We don’t plan on stopping, but taking you with us on most all of our adventures. Keep your passport near and dear. This is your ticket to the world. The 1st thing I want you to learn when you go to new places or someone’s home, eat their food. You may not always be able to learn the language but learn the basics of any home or country you visit. Be curious. You will be filled with a lifetime of adventures and memories as long as you stay curious about the world and its people.
Lesson 4: Do You, Girl! Seriously. Let me explain what I mean here. There’s going to come a time in your life when people are going to try to discourage you or not understand your dream(s). Someone is always going to try to tell you, “no” or “you can’t do that”, don’t listen to them. Your life and destiny are that of your own. This is your journey and yours alone. Let no-one else try to define your life, especially a man, friends or even us. Eat what you want, go where you want, live in whatever city you want, date who you want man or woman. Have fun discovering who you are. It’s going to take awhile, but know that you’ll get there and feel so confident in who you are when you do. Know that you deserve your blessings. Never let anyone intimidate you or dull your shine. Your mama never did and I forbid it for you. Do you, girl!
Lesson 5: Be Kind. Probably most important of all, kindness. The basis of humanity is based on kindness for one another. One of the things I love the most about your father is he is one of the kindest people I know. You’ll see because he’s probably going to be the kindest to you. You must know and acknowledge the simple fact that you are born in the United States, you’re already freer than most people around the world. You are only a few generations from being a migrant worker or coal miner in this country. You are the granddaughter of immigrants. You must never forget this. Everyone you meet, you must be kind to them, no matter where they come from or how they came into your life. You must have your heart open to people everywhere from those without homes, struggling in poverty, to all the new people you will meet when you travel the world. Be kind. Always. When you are kind you will notice the world and universe will open up to you. Your life will be filled with an abundance of joy because your heart is pure.
Finally, I want to remind you that you are the greatest gift and blessing in our lives. As we prepare to meet you, I feel I’ve already known you my whole life. Be patient with us and we’ll do our best to be patient with you. We’re all new at this thing, but I think we’re going to figure it out together. We love you more than you’ll ever know.